Hudson’s three beautiful and painfully brief days with us are a reminder of this truth: Life is too short.
You don’t have a guarantee of tomorrow.
Cherish the people who matter in your life.
Change the things you don’t like about your life.
Be the person you want to be, now.
Life is too short for anything else.
We lost our daughter. We got those three beautiful days, but in the end, her life was too short. And here we are, trudging onward. Looking forward with anticipation to the joy that life has in store for us in the future, but also saddled with a lifelong grief that will always tinge every happy, good thing.
Life will be more full because of Hudson, even with this huge gaping emptiness where she belongs.
It’s tragic and unfortunate that it often takes a loss like this for one to realize the truth:
Life is too short.
So I’m making changes now.
Life is too short to not tell the people you love the most how much they mean to you – so I’m telling them, with my words and with my actions and with my time.
Life is too short to not be the person you want to be – so I’m being me, I’m making the time for the things that feed my soul, and I’m making the choice to travel the paths I want to travel.
Life is too short. Be you. Be fulfilled. Be good to others. Be your best.
Hudson’s life was too short, and she’s missed every day in so many ways. Finding special and meaningful ways to memorialize her life has become a small obsession. It’s one of those weird things I will have to deal with in this life – finding a way to ensure that Hudson is a continuous part of our daily lives without putting her on a pedestal or making her future brothers and/or sisters feel like they have to “live up to” her. But I can’t pretend that her life didn’t happen, that she wasn’t born, that she didn’t change my entire world.
So in keeping with my “life’s too short” theme, I have decided that I can’t make everything about Hudson, even though everything in my life now is shaped by Hudson in some small way. I have to live for the living, and be good to (and for) the people who are in my life now.
She’s making me a better person – a better wife, better friend, better mommy – and she did all that in just three days.